A distraught lady has taken to social media to seek advice as to what to do because the mother of the man who broke up with her needs some money to aid her son get a job in the security services.
Taking to the page of popular relationship blogger on Facebook, Abena Manokekame, this lady wrote; “There’s this guy I’ve been dating for the past 5 years now. We started well even though he is not working since that time till now. I was in level 200 going to 300 when he proposed but before I accepted, I asked to promise me to stop drinking and smoking because that was what he was doing.
He accepted to stop even though it wasn’t easy for him but with prayers and the love he had for me he managed to stop. We begun well and visiting was frequent at level 300 because I was out doing my internship and he was close too but when I completed, he visited me at home only once.
I started my NSS and he came there too once. I was the one doing most of the visiting because he’s not working and didn’t have money too. Because of that, I also decided not to bother him with anything. I didn’t even ask of 1gh from him because I knew he struggled to feed himself at times though he tried to get me airtime anytime money gets to his hand.
Aunty please sorry for the long message but please you and Manofans have to advice me on this. This guy visited me again once when I was finally posted for work. During his stay with me, I found out he was cheating. I asked him and he denied but later he apologized after confirming that it’s true.
I forgave him but after that visit, he never visited me again until March last year. He came to me and I paid him a visit on August last year. Since then we have not seen ourselves again though we talk on phone but not always.
Early this year he asked me to take a loan for him to buy a car but I told him I just started work and I don’t know how taking loan at this early stage of starting work will be because I’m not financially stable. Besides I don’t support the idea of buying car because “the pragya” (three wheel motorcycle) has taken over the market and taxis are no more working like at first. I said that he should rather let us keep applying for a job for him. If we get one for him and they are even demanding for payment, I can help with that but he said he will never pay bribe to get job.
Aunty since that conversation this guy started giving me attitude. He doesn’t call nor text. He will be online but will never chat and when I call, he will tell me he has no airtime. I will buy him airtime only for him to tell me MTN has deducted it because he borrowed airtime so I was the one doing the calling.
For about 4 months now we have not been talking because I asked him to visit me. Guys were disturbing me and I just wanted him to come so that they will know that I’m going out with someone but he refused and told me that he doesn’t have money to come so what do I want him to do. Moreover I shouldn’t come and pressure him because he has a lot to think about. He shouted on me and I just broke down. Since then he never called, I also never called. Four months now ooo.
Just yesterday, his mom called me that she has taken a loan of 5000gh to help him enter one of the security services so she needed 2000gh from me to add up. Meanwhile she knows the son doesn’t talk to me. Aunt I don’t know what to do because I don’t know my stand in the relationship now. If I should help now and later her son comes to tell me he can’t be with me again what do I do?”
Kwamina DEXTRO